No One Can Do It For You

copyright 2012 by Danise Codekas

2 days after selling most of what I possessed in the world, new things are being added to my empty coffers. Specifically, new brakes, differential fluids, and lubricants for the Subaru engine which will deliver me most comfortably, and safely to somewhere in the Southwestern US.

A going away present from my mother, the brakes will be appreciated, since Bremerton Subaru has me wondering why my rear brakes wore out before the front ones, which are pretty near perfect after 105K miles.

Some things cannot be undone in my life. Many of the circumstances which created the situation I find myself in now, took decades to foment their eventual result. My head is tired, continually, for the past 2 weeks, as tension about selling my stuff, moving across states which I've never driven over, in high heat, and 1600 miles, away form the brisk Puget Sound and all that currently is known to me in the universe, here in Washington State.

There are about 12 boxes, packed, stored and awaiting me to choose what things will share that car with me as I drive away, soon. Some of those things that are in plastic, 30 gal. garbage bags, like tapestries, hand painted rugs, and my Three Dog Down duvet, which I drove 1,000 miles for in 2 days, to purchase from the 3 Dog Down Factory in Polson, MT., one fine September, a few years ago. It is coming in the car, and hope it enjoys its seat in the back of the station wagon.

Since my unplugging from all that was my life, for 20+years, erupted into something larger than just a new location or a new employer, many of the friends I have spoken with are also having transition eruptions occur in their lives and hearts.

My friend Tom jumped on the chance to drive off with me, and fly back on SWAir, so he could have an adventure, share driving, expenses and those great road trip experiences and conversations that pop up in the middle of the night across a dark, moonlit sky south of Sedona.

Friends, who I am visiting in the Southwest, are exploring new job searches in locations with a bigger, livelier vibe to them. Another friend relocated to Alabama, and loves living in the mountains in the city with the highest number of PH.D's in the US. He has found his tribe, there.

The route keeps changing as friends who I hoped to visit, like my friend in San Francisco, already have their apartments booked with, visitors or friends, of roommates, are already committed to playing flamenco guitar, for their bed space in the Divisidaro living room.

Since I lived in Argentina, flamenco guitar has never been for from my heart, and watching some of the best in the world play, while living in Buenos Aires and Mar del Plata, I know the value of a sexy,  flamenco guitarist hanging out around the house. Really wanted to go toe-to-toe with the magazine guy who never spoke with me again, after he told me he was taking a 19 year old to Sea Ranch for the weekend. He was 48, and I had fallen for his bad boy LA ways.

Darn! I forgot that honestly expressing feelings about a man, to him, without a clue, whether he even knew how to spell my last name, is a big stupid thing to do. No, he never asked me out. Chickenshit is what someone called him. I guess he was, or, he just wasn't that into me. More than likely that was it and how does a woman who is not 19, compete with one, who is? Maybe he wanted a baby mama?

Oh, well, there are bad boys in Santa Fe, aren't there? Like I have time with looking for a new place to live, working on the book, taking photographs and finding a sustainable community to spend enjoying time with now.

I do not know what to tell those of you who are calling me crazy, brave, or lost touch with reality.

Whatever, your reality is, and I do not care at this point, anyway. Yes, it is crazy to rip apart my life, release anything which would require a 40 foot moving van to transport, and walk away from all that has been recognizable to my psyche and emotionally manageable.

Yes, it is brave of my to walk into the unknown, without a net of any great width, to catch me when I fall, falter or fail. I am learning something new about myself , driving onward on this quest which was brewing inside of me for 2 years now. Everything that has led up to this is a well executed plan of the universe for my edification, awareness and upliftment.

 It is an answer to a prayer, subconsciously murmured by me, for a few years. be careful what you think and dream about now. The time it now takes for reality to replace your wish or illusion desires, rapidly diminishes in length of time to activate, arrive or appear before you.

Be very careful how you wish, pronounce or curse those things, dreams, people you want now. Life does not exist in a vacuum and anything you want now, whether object or human or animal does not occur until you sacrifice something which makes a space for that desire to be placed into.

I was asked to sacrifice and release,  500 books, 80 works of art, crystals and Tibetan tankas, 300 pieces of clothing, 100 pieces of furniture, 1 Hong Kong Black Lacquer and Copper Bar, a house above the Puget Sound, friends of 20 years, 300 Cd's, 50 pairs of shoes, 100's of office supplies, incredible mesa pottery collected over decades. And the list can go on.

I did not sacrifice the necessities, the beautiful the sacred objects which provide my balance now. Too many things I can no longer remember, since a week has now passed from the moment I wiped away things which served me well, and their purpose being with me.

You will be asked to sacrifice also, however, you should know that a week later, I am relaxed and happy it is all gone. I do not have to house it. Now, all I have to house is me.

Some of you have asked about the handmade guitar which was designed for me by those 2 famous Mexican Guitar artists, from Playa Tijuana. No, I did not sell it, not that I did not try, however, some things are meant to be with me a while longer.  Since guitar appraisers, said it is a fine piece of art work, with the mother of pearly, amethyst and hand carved body. It, has a new place to be, also.

I know life is changing everyday, as do you. Once I began to look closely at what and who was around me, and what had disappeared from my location, my mind, my activities in the Northwest, I knew that a new directional signal had infiltrated my internal compass. For me, it is a personal apocalypse, of great magnitude, if things, objects are your gold standard of life.

What is important to me now, is not what was important a month ago, a week ago, last night. Change I am. Who are you today? I see many of you changing, wishing you could abandon the life you are creating by not being able to unplug due to fear, possibility of your unknown life awaiting.

And those of you who are calling me, begging me to push you into doing what I did, I am here for you, however, your way of disengaging, releasing and the reasons thereof, are different from mine. Know that we are all being challenged to be honest with ourselves and everyone around us. If you lie to yourself, no one will be able to tell or show you the truth about your Self. No One Can.

“The apocalypse is not something which is coming. The apocalypse has arrived in major portions of the planet and it's only because we live within a bubble of incredible privilege and social insulation that we still have the luxury of anticipating the apocalypse. If you go to Bosnia or Somalia or Peru or much of the third-world then it appears that the apocalypse has already arrived.”-Terence McKenna

I Am Going, Too

©2012 Danise Codekas

Life is either a daring adventure or nothing. Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature. -- Helen Keller

So much sunshine today along the Puget Sound. Thought a headache was coming on however it proved to be all the delving into plastic buckets in the mudroom, rucking around to see if there was anything I really needed to keep before the appraisers arrive to review for the estate sale.

Yow, I hired a group of professional estate sales pros to sell 20 years’ accumulation of those things accentuating 2 decades of my life. Some moments wanting to hold on and keep, and the next that previously desired, forgotten, in the exploration of the next box, bucket or pile of papers.

In the end these things matter most: How well did you love? How fully did you love? How deeply did you learn to let go?
- Buddha

Deciding to cleanse my life of things unused, outdated, held onto simply for the say so, began forming last time I went to Kauai. My friend’s home both energizing and peaceful atop the Wailua River, has everything a body can require, yet devoid of the accumulation many of us require to touch, see, or require for our sense of worth to be vilified before others and our own 21st century mega-accumulation prone minds.

True, someday I made need something that is leaving the house in someone else’s hands, however, I remind myself of the other times in my life, I sold everything, packed up a car, or jumped on a plane, and arrived in a strange, new environment, without friends,and began again.

Yes, some fear, excitement, worries and exhaustion revolve my days now, as I prepare for the next part of my life to enfold. I also know that to continue, in the same manner now, would be grossly unfair to my soul, and headed to a future moments in which I would ask, “What if I had cleared myself of all baggage, packed the car, and started on a new part of my life’s journey in 2012?”.

 

My dreams for the past 2 months have been about ‘drive South’. Where, I ask. California? ABQ/ Santa Fe? LA? Hawaii? I need a place to live. Work. Friends. Fresh air. Joy. Music.

No clear answer is heard, and so I have no guarantee of an easy road, a soft place to land, or even a romantic end to my life. If you have an idea, a writing/editing/traveling job for me, a connection you are pulled to explore with me, let me know.

Danise@gmail.com is how to connect, send some wisdom and encouragement, or SKYPE Codekas, Fbook-danise codekas. Fun, huh?

Oh, you wait until you start feeling the urge to change. Happens for us all differently, yet the exhilaration of knowing something is right about the changes I am making, combined with the moments of flying by the wind, with faith, you shall feel, my friend. Your soul loudly declares you learned your lesson, in this geographic location, and the new place in cosmic reality awaits.

Unless, someone has a offer to travel to foreign places to assist them in their great adventure, I shall be in a Subaru Impreza wagon, green, with music playing and probably windows down.

Be well. Happy Earth Day.

And yes, everything could change tomorrow, and I decide to stay, for I will miss my family. I could collapse in a heap of indecision, once the last piece of my history walks away in the hands of a stranger. I don’t know. That is what an act of faith, guided by heart and sol requires.

Admitting I do not know however positive in order to be where the most growth and joy awaits, I must make these changes now, and release things and objects from my past. There has been good things received here. I was blessed here and blessed I carry on. This transition evolves and I grow in trust and a little bit more fear, outside the edges, than usual. So be it. It is 2012. I should have knows, huh?

Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.-- Deborah Reber

However, clearing the past, the unused, the unneeded, will conclude in a lighter load, for my journey in this life.

I am excited and hopeful based on the wonderful people and animals which have touched my life in the past 20 years. I think I have become more humane, and compassionate because of you all.

If I have pissed you off at some point, or been less that sincere or been bad, very very, I apologize. I can only do as well as I know, and learn from that in order to do better the next time a similar challenge arises.

That is what life is about isn’t? We don’t come in perfect; we are pointed toward perfection and joy and with helping hands along the way come to know the value of life, love and human touch.

We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.- E.M. Forster

Old Poetry Found in a File

Danise Codekas © 2012
A friend found some of my poetry the other day and lectured me about why I had never bothered publishing it. Unlike some children, my first writings were not prose, but poetry. Long days and nights spent in childhood pursuits leached into my consciousness in rhyme, rather than nightmares.

Perhaps I never mentioned them but the first books I read, alone, when I could read alone, were not fairy tales but epic poetry, odes and mythology. The first 2 books received when I was around 8, were the Iliad and The Odyssey.

Coffee table-sized, artfully colored in rich, powerful colors, the pictures were true to Greek tragic art. Reds,blues, black, emotive, powerful, images of Scylla, the Sirens, the death of Piraeus, the bloodshed inside the walls of Troy, as the wooden horse revealed the hidden Greek warriors inside, who stormed into the midst of a jubilant, sleeping city and burned it to the ground.

My other favorite book was the Aeneid, by Virgil, consisting of 12 books, 10,000 lines of dactylic hexameter, and is the tale of Aeneas, a Trojan warrior who heads off to Italy, after the fall of Troy, and hangs out with the Romans.

You see how I, as a child, would want to write poetry for her first composition.  Reading poetry quickly satisfies my soul and quickly reveals the energy of a situation, human or soul.  So here is a poem written around Easter 2002. ‘Tis the season, non?



Ode To A Cat; Ode About My Mistress, ©2002, Danise Codekas

He sits to my right
Watching my hands and eyes
Waiting for me to look his way.
He licks up his paw and rests it
On the desk again.
Waiting for me to stop typing and
Return to my bed.
He knows the hours have been long today.
He also knows it is time to go nite nite.

A cat has an internal clock built like we do.
It is based on sunlight and moonlight
Like it used to be for me in Crete.
Just the moon to light my nights and
The Sun to follow my mind, through the day.

This animal is tired.
Now with eyes closed he listens to the keyboard
As it clicks and stops.
His ears go up at the silence and he opens one eye slowly.

Is she done?
Will we go into the other place and lie our heads
Upon the pillows?
Will she lie down quietly so I can lie next to her,
And sleep,
And dream about Cat Heaven and things so wondrous,
Because my mind is not filled with angst or anger or fears.

I am just a companion cat who lives for many years,
With this woman of kindness and beauty.
Whom I know so well.
Better than anyone else in the World.

I know her moods and the sounds of her voices.
I know her eyes and the smile that tells me
She is content, with Me.
I am a happy cat,
An old cat.
A cat that awaits My Mistress.

She stops.
She moves.
And the Brightness goes away
As we walk into the other room,
With the Softness to lie on.

Whitney’s Opportunistic Death for Hollywood

©2012 Danise Codekas

I found a box of old journals and writings today while cleaning out my office. Buried in a large, plastic tub which holds another couple thousand of pages to be read, discarded or reviewed for another manuscript.

Writers tend to save words they write. We do not discard many things, and even the short missives we write alone, sometimes in anger or sorrow, or too personal for release, get saved and remind us of our past life, which brings about a day or an hour of incredible angst, joy or names of people long forgotten, years later.

I have about 300 journals, tablets and binders which sit awaiting their disclosure, or destruction. The new tub discovered today adds another 30 or so, to the growing library of my writer’s self. Looks like about 2000 pages or more of words, ideas, revelations, and memories.

Sometimes you just have to go back to the island, like Jimmy Buffet says. I just had to go back today in time, and I do hope you understand. Some of the journals and writings go back 15 years or more. The people and events written about reminded me of a time when I was a different person, in a different life, and yet, not so much so.

Finding them came at a point in time when I realized a new book was in the works. Different from the ones in process. The whole point to the discovery had nothing to do with writings found, but a search through boxes to find an install CD for my printer.

Eyes glazed over in boredom, reading about Whitney Houston’s dip into Hades’ mystique, the energy many people are fixated on becomes similar to the 1920’s ennui over Chicago mobsters and chain gang deaths unreported, unnoticed.

Houston was not the only person to create their own death while not quite dipping into suicide with intent, and unquestioned self-destructive action. She gets in a tub, drunk, drugged, sad, depressed, lonely and dies.

Many can relate. Drink and drugs, destructive life in process, compass gone wild in heart, and those willing to assist for money, affiliation and media exposure. If someone ends their life, everyone close to them, become responsible for their own actions which inhibited or influenced the rush to destruction.

Wishing to die and creating a lifestyle which rolls a Whitney Houston close to the edge of Hades, are two different things, entirely. She had moments of clarity. With her daughter; with her family. There were times when a light of understanding, a request for help were evident.

However, choosing to help someone, violently intruding into someone’s self-destructive lifestyle choices, especially when that person controls your income or entrée in entertainment kingdoms, or can withhold the monies for monthly stipends takes a brave, karmic bond.

Sometimes those dependents keep their mouths closed and agree, in silence, their choice was right, the results were shocking, and weep dramatically coffin-side hoping a Houston, opens the lock-jawed mouth, and offers penance and absolution, now that Houston sees everything everyone supported in helping her to her watery, Hilton Hotel grave.

The bottom-feeders will come out to profit from her death as will the performers and family whose first call after hearing of her death, called a publisher to sell their tell-all experience since the golden calf has melted into her alcohol soaked Hilton death.

Those people enjoying the wild pre-Grammy party at the Hilton, while in 3 minutes or less, Houston suffocates, heart-stops and floats around the bathtub until discovery, now claim, how sorry they are they partied on.

What contempt they demonstrate for a woman’s death, and how typical of media-crazed opportunists to claim horror over their partying, while a woman, who had given up on herself, walked into her karmic death. Not like she did not know she had fallen apart and was destroying her career, life, and body.

These friends, co-musicians, media moguls are sucking her famed coated bones dry, and like Presley’s personal staff at Graceland, whose claim to fame was how close they were to the bathroom when Elvis crapped and blew out his heart, Houston’s friends at the party central Hilton, are already building up their stories, and those whose rooms were on the same floor of her suite, can create the best sugar-coated lies in order to garner the important invitations from talk show hosts.

So let the milking of the diva’s dark and mysterious death begin, singing stars of America. The rest of us, out here, know what the game is, just like in ancient Rome, as it imploded upon itself and degenerated into greed, insouciance, and fear, know exactly how much you are drooling at the mouth to find a way to turn this into a golden, marketing opportunity for you and your trademarked, baby’s name.

Tired of lying to myself about my life. Houston’s death, as little as it effects me, as I, like you, knew she had become a drugged up, alcoholic, and her life blipped off my radar, think, based on my screwed up life, right now, those words so often left for the last pronouncement, when realizing possibilities of our lives: There now, but for the grace of a higher power, go I.

Close Enough, Radical Explosion

copyright 2012 Danise Codekas

Solar flares are driving me to drive too fast, in the sunshine, with the radio blasting, 15mph over the speed limit. Have to figure out why my computer is not talking to my printer, this week. New drivers? A disconnect which encompasses all my current social, physical, and mental accumulated wisdoms, to this point in time.

The unequivocal truth about the current time, in the universe, has to be the fact that that the current cosmic time is referred to as when all our past which no longer serves our growth, needs to be evicted from our lives.

So many lies I have told myself about me. All those negative beliefs about who you are, what your purpose is in the universe, need to be let go now. You have amount a year to do it, given the way cosmology is impacting all our lives.

There is not a lot of time to re-arrange our lives, o reach and strive for that which I truly want and can have, has shut me down in quiet unbelief while sitting in 14 inches of snow, and an ice storm without electr4icity, in order to process it. The massive solar eruptions, the past few days, of course, disturbed my complacency and contemplation, for which I am eternally grateful.

When earth changes, economics and personal revelations arise in the blink of an eye and a decision must be made, in order to advance, or vegetate, as we are now.

I thought I was safe for a while from impromptu, important actions, in changing my life. What a fool have I been? No? Yes! Unimaginable awareness of what life events meant in my life, and how refusing to own my wisdom,and the struggle is has taken to get to a point of clarity.

A half a million people have been wiped off the earth in the past 2 years, from natural disasters alone. Just wiped away, along with homes, animals, earth and man-made objects created for our survival. It took minutes to wipe off these souls fro the face of the earth. minutes, seconds.

The last 2 years have been hell, for most of us, if not all.  The ability to adjust to our new understandings, which involved moving, leaving, going, abandoning, waking up, or hiding away.

When the sun shines, when the joy breaks through in those seconds of momentary brilliance and awareness, all this crap I am enduring, struggling with, disappears, in a minute, a second.

The false reality which I hold onto appears clearly inside my head. My mind and heart know what the truth is, even though, my current physicality on the earth, in my office, in my living room, remains unchanged, until I begin to release stuff, clean up and re-arrange, and begin to divest myself of also the objects and stuff which have served well in my chapel of life, here in the Pacific NW.

Along with self-awareness and enlightenment, comes the appreciation of different, art,music, writers, vistas and revolutionary men and women, who, like myself, are battling themselves out of their old egg-shaped energy forms and auras, because the old forms do not sustain, exist, or allow growth into expansive new lives.

I find myself taking different roads, meeting new people synchronistically, and enjoying and celebrating those friends and families who are doing incredible new things, in their own lives, yet, seem to be in shell shock, that they are doing them. They believe it is unlike anything they have ever done before and do not know why they did something.

I cheer them on because knowing the why of doing something new, bringing something new into their lives, based on a gut reaction , rather than fear-based analytical, hierarchical social customs, they are breaking out of the mold and terrors which have enfolded them in pasty grays and ribald fluxes.

Clarity and joyous possibilities arise and learning their own value and worth and wisdom flies into their lives, and mine, with incredible speed and accuracy. The universe is responding to desires based on self-revealing truths, and anyone who is hiding inside their cars, houses, playing the classy voyeur, or virile stalker are being identified and identified.

We are becoming our true selves, as a massive group cosmic awareness overtakes us all, on the planet. Like the earth expands and breathes, as New Mexico land mass expands because of underground earth changes from the underworld of geysers beneath Wyoming, our bodies are also boiling away the dross of our old lives, that no longer serve, and we expand into things we could never have imagined which change our lives, quickly.

We are bursting to experience that which we have wanted to for a long tine, only difference is that many of know that now all the power to create our lives, as we see in our hearts, is possible and is occurring in 2012.

Sitting here, at 230pm, in blazing sunshine, hot sun, solar flares coming directly at me from 93 million miles away, blasting my third eye, and 5th chakra wide open, without a coat, and wearing sunglasses, leads me to believe that perhaps my time in the Northwest is at end.

I need more sun. It is time to go back to Hawaii or California or Santa Fe and the fear I feel dissipates, about many changes and grows in others. I will simply have to throw it back across the cosmic Grand Canyon, and take a new breath.

The time is not far off when I will leave this place,where I live. It can be measured in months, I think. Not many, not few,however 2012 is the year of transition for me, in so many ways, that I see now, and in so many others which, I await their arrival.

“make a radical change in your lifestyle and begin to boldly do things which you may previously never have thought of doing, or been too hesitant to attempt. So many people live within unhappy circumstances and yet will not take the initiative to change their situation because they are conditioned to a life of security, conformity, and conservation, all of which may appear to give one peace of mind, but in reality nothing is more damaging to the adventurous spirit within a man than a secure future. The very basic core of a man's living spirit is his passion for adventure. The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun. If you want to get more out of life, you must lose your inclination for monotonous security and adopt a helter-skelter style of life that will at first appear to you to be crazy. But once you become accustomed to such a life you will see its full meaning and its incredible beauty.”

                                     ― Jon Krakauer, Into the Wild

Extremities of Courage

© 2012 Danise Codekas

“Absence diminishes mediocre passions and increases great ones, as the wind extinguishes candles and fans fires.”--Francois de La Rochefoucauld

Well, did you think it was going to be easy slipping over the edge into 2012? Personally, I did not think about it until my life and the lives of those around me starting intruding into a quiet, well manicured life, which we all seemed to deluding ourselves about for some time, it appears.

“No human being will ever know the Truth, for even if they happen to say it by chance, they would not even known they had done so.” ---Xenophanes

Not sure what you are about now, however, given the tragic events which encompassed universal notoriety during the past few months, my guess would be energetic seeking of your new private dream, scooping up the detritus of last year’s screw ups, which you so denied meant anything at the time you screwed up.

The immediate understanding, at the moment of impact, the results of the words, actions and masks you wear for us, out here, as you hide, still, the results of behemoth attempts, to become that which you are not feeling, you can become, as your soul screams out for you to become and grab onto those things you really want, really are, now.

Really, what do you want? If you know, this is the time to go get it. Banging your head on the seashore is getting old, when you want to let go of the familiar and move into the unknown horizons, which you close your eyes to because you do not deserve them; you have not suffered enough, completed enough penances, paid enough in pain and loveless lifetimes.

“I didn't have anybody, really, no foundation in life, so I had to make my own way. Always, from the start. I had to go out in the world and become strong, to discover my mission in life.”--Tina Turner

Guess what? No one cares. No one is asking you to get on your knees and beg forgiveness, pay a price, or deny yourself dreams, or even explore illusions which you were so frightened of, so sure something or someone was not real, yet you never reached out to touch, or ask, or journey to discover.

“If you just set out to be liked, you would be prepared to compromise on anything at any time, and you would achieve nothing.”-Margaret Thatcher

No one cares, since everything you have now, or do not have, has been your choice. You and I both live in a free will universe. Everything you are now, is what you have chosen to be, and I am not asking you to pay a price or penance for what you have done, since, should we meet, all those experiences from the moment we look in one another’s eyes, are who you are in that present moment.

“You take your problems to a god, but what you really need is for the god to take you to the inside of you.”--Tina Turner

We may not connect; or, we may. Regretting that which you fucked up, in the past, yesterday, does it affect you today, this moment?

If that which you have desired ,your entire life, is offered you, right now, and you turn from it, because you do not believe there are other humans who are compassionate,  and understand that there is only serendipity and random synchronicity, which has import for a meeting to have taken place, between you?

There are grander, cosmic themes in our lives, in 2012, only because the lessons and clarity you received last year, is going to be put into action this year.

If you sit on your hands, and don’t make the phone call, run away and hide somewhere, bury yourself in excuses to not explore that which has laid festering in your soul, for a few years, because you lacked courage to pursue someone, something, then your life will be less than it could be.

“It pays to know the enemy - not least because at some time you may have the opportunity to turn him into a friend.”--Margaret Thatcher

You are not going to die if you pursue someone or something which you know impacted you with FORCE. How many people in your life affected you like that? How many ideas, have sat in your soul for years, which you keep smothering, keep pushing down into that dark corner of soliloquys,  enamored of its own voice, and passionless fears?

Pathetic? Is this a word you can ascribe to an attempt to touch someone, work for something, create something, in the past few years which you, still, to this day, are still castrating yourself over?

“Nothing is as important as passion. No matter what you want to do with your life, be passionate.”--Jon Bon Jovi

Either connect, create, or be afraid for another year, another minute. Free-will universe is where you and I both exist. Together.

So, perhaps, a fool, I appear to be. Perhaps, a woman who speaks in circles and confusion, from a mind and heart that is tired of self-created mindlessness, which created loneliness, confusion and fire and rain, all of which seemed to block out the truth, I hid, inside.

If you could walk out that door, right now, without any consequences to your livelihood, or structured relationships, to see and talk or examine that person or situation which you desire the most, or fly to get the answer to a question, from someone, which you have thought about for days, years.

Call someone and ask the questions, without fear or reprisals, if you had a no-impact universal free-pass, would you go, call, try? This is what 2012 is all about. Your opportunity to reach clarity and recognize lies and truths. No more masks are needed to pretend, to hide who you are and what you want.

Why not act from depths, rather than fears?

“Power is of two kinds. One is obtained by the fear of punishment and the other by acts of love. Power based on love is a thousand times more effective and permanent then the one derived from fear of punishment.”--Mohandas Gandhi

Holiday Crisis #1- They Don’t Know You

(c) 2011 Danise Codekas

“Peace on earth would mean the end of civilization as we know it.”-Joseph Heller

Oh, geeze, I am gritting my teeth as another holiday crisis occurs, destroying a delusional illusion, someone once held, about me. At the same time, realizing this person really does not know me, by telling me I must agree with their false data, about an event in my life, they were misinformed about,  tells me that the top 10 Christmas Crises are about to begin.

10 days of Christmas are balanced out by the 10 Holiday Crises, in case you skipped school that day. So I will lay them out, in the 10 day countdown, to the 25th. #10 gets posted on the 26th, boxing day. Because it involved unwanted presents, returned engagement rings, and waking up drunk in someone’s hotel room, in a city you cannot remember, sometimes. 

Do you know what you did in your life? Do you know what really happened during an event that completely altered the course of your life? Usually, you do, unless you are drugged, drunk or unconscious.

To be told by another person, who was not THERE with you, and that they are telling you that you are lying, or their version is correct, and yours is not, when they were NOT there, showed me that this person thought i was a liar, and an idiot.

I felt like I was standing in front of an old boyfriend, who told me he was not cheating on me, after telling me he had been having sex with 2 other women, while we were together for 6 months. It was not cheating; it was that he was in a relationship with them.

It was not cheating. That is what he wanted me to believe. Geeze. Did he really think I was that stupid? Oh, wait. No, he didn’t think I was stupid. He just did not want to admit that he had become a liar and a cheat.

“Be careful what you pretend to be because you are what you pretend to be.”--Kurt Vonnegut

It would have destroyed his family and friends and clients' opinions that he was a mover and a shaker and an upstanding businessman in San Francisco.

God Forbid, anyone find out he was a pathological liar (if your cheating on someone; you are always lying to them). I would imagine that Fred is still a serial cheater,living in Sausalito or San Francisco. (Bitching about X’s, is allowed for a few minutes every Christmas. Do not drink, when bitching. It’s a waste of good liquor.)

Christmas and Hanukah always bring out the truth about your relationships, and what you are feeling, deep down inside, and seems to scratch itself up to the raw surfaces of your heart and brain.

Stuff you are wishing for and hoping for rises and those desires also drag about all that detritus, you buried inside, that has to be dealt with, before the dream and illusions morph into reality. It sucks.

However, you know that you are going to visit people and spend time in old scenarios, either connected by blood or memory, which you really wish did not cause such sickening  uncomfortable, reactionary stress, as thoughts dredge up those old paradigms.

I won't be heading into any of those this year. Had one of those ah-ha moments today, after realizing I had finally un-plugged from an old pattern, which was part of my life mission. Karma stuff.

I completed it this morning, around 630 AM, PST. Difficult encounters, with people, who you think know you well, are happening with  you and me, over this joyous, holiday season. 

If you can hold your head together, and be an observer, when these people begin telling you, who you are (which you no longer are),  or argue with you, about an event, which they were never at, however, you were, then you and I are not insane and should have a reasonable witty, amusing holiday, with some amazing discussions and connections made.

Or, what about those friends or family, that tell you, you are wrong about what really happened, at this event, they were never at, but, you were.?

If you can be compassionate in those moments, when you realize they are calling you a liar and do not know you, truthful you,  at all,  and you feel like you have fallen into the Twilight Zone, and still can walk away with no blood dripping from your ripped heart, then it is can be considered an enlightening, holiday moment.

Know that it does not matter what people believe about you: who do not really know the truth about you, and do not believe you when you tell them who you are, what really happened or what you believe.

You will do fine this holiday season, if you keep this in mind. therwise, get on a plane, on a highway, and head to a place where no one knows you, and have a meal with a stranger.

“Destiny is a good thing to accept when it's going your way. When it isn't, don't call it destiny; call it injustice, treachery, or simple bad luck.”--Joseph Heller

Why talk to someone who thinks you are an illusion and tells you, you do not know who you are? Then, won't believe what you tell them about yourself? I thought this person had lost their mind, when they were telling me I was wrong about something that happened, which I had written proof of.

I almost said I would show them the document, to prove that I was right, and then decided not to. I know what is the truth about my life.  I’ve known this person for 20 years! Friends, for 20 years! It was en enlightening moment to find out they invalidated my truth; our relationship.

A lot of personal dramas are erupting all around you right now, tonight, maybe, and all you can do is observe or be drawn into someone's illusionary beliefs about who you really are, what you are really doing, or what you have actually done in your life.What you really need.

It is the time to not cater to someone else's false ideas about you. it is a time to speak your truth about yourself, about what really happened, what was really said, what you believed to be true, what you really need and want.

But, you better make sure you have some courage to pick up that phone if you need to say hello or goodbye. better make sure you understand that time is not real and miracles happen once you accept the truth about what it is you really need in your life.

Denying a personal truth, a need, a person you love, a mission, will keep you frozen in the past, in the shrouds of darkness which smother your ability to engage in serendipitous relationships which bring  joy and peace.

And, so you can understand what I am trying to say in this posting, if you did not get it, I leave you with a quote which makes me feel connected, even when, sometimes, I feel no one understands me, when I write, speak or cry.

“Still and all, why bother? Here's my answer. Many people need desperately to receive this message: I feel and think much as you do, care about many of the things you care about, although most people do not care about them. You are not alone.--Kurt Vonnegut

Where Are You?

©2011 Danise Codekas

“I put my heart and my soul into my work, and have lost my mind in the process.”-Van Gogh

Seems like there is some disconnecting going on between our ideas of who we are and who we think we are. At least I keep slipping into an alternative universe, more than not, these past few weeks.

Change, when it begins, grows in volume, as random pieces of information arrive faster and louder, when higher consciousness is listened to acutely, and I release that which no longer serves.

The music is clearer. Songs play on airwaves that speak exactly to me and what I am feeling, and unable to express, until the song finishes playing.

A connection has been cut, and the new forms of communication are stuck inside my head, and now the wires and modalities are coming into my periphery.

“What I expect from any work of art is that it surprises me, that it violates my customary valuations of things and offers me other, unexpected ones.” – Jean Dubuffet

The dreams we all have are flipped over again and again. Some of my fears will never come to pass, even though those some fears are experienced by people around me. What is the worst that can happen to you?

I am learning to not to ask that question. Seems futile when the things that are after me, chasing me down alleys and tsunamis in my mind, are being handled in excruciating detail, moment by moment.

Many bindings are twisting away into the cosmos, like the Kutscher-Moore marriage, Café Gratitude debacle, loved one’s health challenges, life as I planned it. Hmm, life as I planned it sounds funny. None of us know what comes the next breath, do we? 

“The artist is not a different kind of person, but every person is a different kind of artist”-Eric Gill

Christmas brings a lot of thought in with its power, doesn’t it? Happiness, loneliness, anxiety, forgiveness. Super powers and large bank accounts needed to release us from the darkness on the edges of our vision and memoirs. Love bandied about, as greed and terror afflict many on land, air and sea.

Meeting new people happens a lot, too. That’s the sparkle for me, about this time in my life. Many new people who connect with me for a short, intense time. The clues to the coming together fascinates me daily. Why now?

My path changes daily. Plans tossed aside as the To-Do list goes askew in coffee houses, park benches and standing in the middle of a friggin’ cold Puget Sound beach as stars rise and the BSNF railcars wind along the tracks, from San Diego to Seattle.

Wiping out all lapping wave sounds and night bird calls on the beach, for a few minutes. Enough to refocus me to thoughts of leaving for anywhere those tracks traverse.

A time when we take a step, and hesitate, before proceeding is upon us.

The danger of failing, screwing up, paying higher prices with our life’s energy, than previously experienced, causes a hesitation, a momentary breath before engaging.

“What I am seeking is not the real and not the unreal but rather the unconscious, the mystery of the instinctive in the human race.” –Modigliani

It seems the cosmos has inserted an extra moment of time, between the last movement, thought, touch and the next, over the past few months.

Is it me? Yes. Is it you, also, responding to the web of time, actions and serendipitous clues that arrive for us all.

The only thing that is able to bring me out of this Kafka-esque Friday night is the Art Basel art fair in Miami, this weekend. Art always always stops me from spending too much time thinking about myself.

“The artist is a receptacle for emotions that come from all over the place; from the sky, from the earth, from a scrap of paper, from a passing shape, from a spider’s web.” –Picasso

Two Face Woman by Picasso

The art and critics smash together at this Hanukkah-Christmas tide conflagration, at a time when the year is ending, and you/me need to be sucked out of 11 months of boring patterns.

A scent of a new possible, in your/mine life grabs the gut/ the third chakra, and alerts us that change is where we are headed, maybe toward one another, maybe not.

“O great creator of being, grant us one more hour to perform our art and perfect our lives.” – Bob Marley

 

 

Momentous Planetary Existence

©2011 Danise Codekas, all rights reserved

“Arriving at each new city, the traveler finds again a past of his that he did now know he had: the foreignness of what you no longer are, or no longer possess, lies in wait for you in foreign, unpossessed places.” – Italo Calvino

Nat King Cole singing, holiday coffee blends listed for sale, and forty degree weather seeping in through old, leaded windows and mud rooms’ unheated walls. Must be almost Christmas.

Friends start asking where I will be for Thanksgiving, Christmas, Boxing Day and New Years Eve. Close friends know that my favorite day is 6 January.  I love to celebrate the true gift exchange date, recognized from the old ways in Europe and South America. I spend time, in those places, over the holidays.

My heritage of Crete, high school years in Argentina, living in Peru and Brazil, and spending Christmas holidays in France, Italy and England, across all my life, inspired me to begin holidays from the day before Thanksgiving through January 7.

Christmas is a time for dinners and meeting friends, in Italy and France, most of Europe and S.America. January 6, Feast of the 3 Kings, Epiphany, is the day to travel to be with family, open presents, just like the three kings did in Bethlehem, Italy and France.

Part of my Christmas DNA comes from France, the Brittany region and Crete; and a lot of my joy DNA, comes from Italy and Switzerland. These places engender Christmas spirit, as does Switzerland and Austria. Just go, if you ever have a chance. Take warm clothes, rain hats, and a video cam.However, there is nothing more fun than LA for New Years Eve, too.

Once, in India, I actually went out and bought frankincense, myrrh and gold, as presents for friends, I had become friends with when I was there for 5 months. It was the question of the power of those gifts, delivered by 3 Kings of long ago, which inspired me. The amazement on their faces ,when they realized what those items signified mystically, made me happy.

I prefer to give, than receive. usually. I am always surprised when someone gives me a present, or sends a card. When someone sends me an email, after a trip or a meeting, one of those once in a lifetime meetings, well, I am always pleased they remember me. Am I not memorable?

Perhaps, however, I do not carry around much hubris in my heart, so my sights are not set on people remembering me, in my jaunts around the planet.

“Travel at its truest is thus an ironic experience, and the best travelers… seem to be those able to hold two or three inconsistent ideas in their minds at the same time, or able to regard themselves as at once serious persons and clowns.” – Paul Fussell

My gratefulness that they spent time with me, as I wandered, alone,  exceeds a personal desire to be remembered, by them.

I am so blessed by those who befriended me, as I have sought out my soul’s path, the shamans and mystics investigated, and challenged, through all my travels across my lifetime. 

Seeking something indefinable, an answer to life’s deepest questions. Trying t0 heal the pains of a relationship, the loss of  a love, the end of a dear one’s life. The push, from my soul, for something different, unexpected and challenging, that jolts me out of the staid and familiar, for a time.

Seeking the next inspiration for the next paragraph in my story, or sweating  in the unforgiving Bangkok sun while composing a melody for my piano.

Capturing that perfect, incandescent photograph, from a mountain side, outside Cuzco or Vaduz, or the memory, of a blue, unlike any other blue on the planet,  glacial glow, reflected from a 200 foot glacier’s cliff, slipping into the Bering Sea.

Yes, I know the next journey is being pulled up from the cosmic, rabbit’s hat, that sits upon my soul. Whenever these memories and peace-fractured whispers, arise, to disturb my known habits, a new adventure is about to develop and a new map is drawn, in my life.

I sit with my consciousness and mediations, follow the signs on the serendipitous revelations in my daily life: on bumper stickers from chance meetings. As repetitive destinations, arise, on the universe’s cartographic by-ways, an unwritten travel plan becomes known, and I see, in incendiary flash awareness,  where it is next I go.

My holiday season starts marching toward me, slowly, gathering momentum and mystical, universal reasons, for why I am going somewhere, on this next part of my Virgo’s mission. What is the purpose, under the stars I am born? W@ho am I meeting, in order to enlighten my heart and vilify my existence? Will I be  re-direct ed back on the path, or is it time to pull off the freeway, at a new exit, headed to joyfulness, expansion and self-knowing? Heal my heart, embolden my mind, expand my soul and  place me in front of love, is my travel prayer, for all my journeys.

Oh, it is painful, sometimes, traveling these roads rails, water and airwaves. Mournful, stressful, challenging, dangerous, incredible, joyful.

Anything is possible once I walk beyond my door, with a bag of belongings, and the horizon’s destination. I  change routes, dates and  expected encounters arise, yet, it leads somewhere, and at some point, I rest at the end, to understand, absorb, marvel.

There is always a new story, though. There is always a revelation about the state of my heart and an answer for my soul.

During the holidays, the seeking and satisfaction increases, as we all move in tandem to touch on something,  an incredible essence, that enfolds the universe in its power and importance, and reveal and remind me and you about our momentous, planetary existence, and missions, on earth.

“It is one of our perennial problems, whether there is actually a God. From the Hindu point of view each soul is divine. All religions are branches of one big tree. It doesn't matter what you call Him just as long as you call. Just as cinematic images appear to be real but are only combinations of light and shade, so is the universal variety a delusion. The planetary spheres, with their countless forms of life, are naught but figures in a cosmic motion picture. One's values are profoundly changed when he is finally convinced that creation is only a vast motion picture and that not in, but beyond, lies his own ultimate reality.”-George Harrison

Full Moons and Memories

(c)2011 Danise Codekas

Well, the only time I have never been interested in other people's loves stories has passed since viewing one of the most maudlin, pitiful video please by a woman, plucking her guitar and singing her new song to her ex-fiance. I cringed while watching her sing about how he told her he would always love her and he just can't love her now. Oh, we have all been there, I know.

If you have a heart, and are relatively interested in a relationship of love, as many of us have been raised to pursue, we have all embarrassed ourselves in short term, long term or one-night stand relationships, at some point in our lives. I certainly don't like to talk about my screw ups, and you probably don't either.

But, we are human, after all, and we will dabble in love, seek love and destroy love as we try to understand who we are, what we need, and how to maintain love with other humans.

What have you done, that still makes you cringe, in a relationship? It does not matter how old you were. I screwed up when I was in second grade with Eddie Heffren. That is how early I started on my embarrassing memory collage of men who I wanted and could never get them to look at me. See me, hear me, feel me, touch me-ism from The Who's, Tommy.

I even sent a love letter to a guy, once, and, he of course, never replied. He never even asked me out on a date. So what do I do if I EVER see him again? It could happen. The world is not all that big and the way the energy is rolling around and changing everything is all our lives and dimensions, now, I am going to be up shit creek if we ever end up sitting across another dinner table from him. I guess the thing is to just bring up the letter, tell him I feel stupid, and maybe next life time, I will re-incarnate with that wisdom, some women have that they can read a man's emotional availability.

I was not born with that DNA gene. I also missed the one that some women have that allows them to be able to flirt and get men to do anything they want for them. I totally missed the flirting gene in this incarnation. I wonder if women always remember those embarrassing moments with men. Do men?

What about those broken marriage engagements? Huh? What's up with them? Yes, that happened to me also. He and his family broke it off, and, no, I do not regret it, now. it sucked when it happened, however, the universe had other plans for me and him, and I like the journey since that happened years ago. I like my journey. It has been meaningful and important.

Writing under a full moon. It is right here shining through the 14 foot high, 12 foot wide window next to my writing corner. Thanksgiving is coming and this is going to be an incredible season of celebration for me.From November 22 through January 7, I travel, visit friends, celebrate, mourn those human relationships that no longer exist, and look for a face in a crowd, or on a beach, or plane, that could be that face which will become important for the next part of the journey.

I am alone on this journey and this year it seems that understanding dwells deeper in my soul's paradigm, than ever before. There is no sorrow about this. It is not loneliness. It is knowing the solitary journey on this planet was always the model. Finding those to walk along with me, being with those I care for, those who inspire, and cause laughter to erupt from within my solitary soul, is easier as I accept this incredible journey I chose through all the minutes of my life.

Love full moons that bring me into the depths of heart and soul and wildness. I am going to learn how to make goat cheese for Christmas.

Whats Happening in Your Heaven?

copyright 2011 Danise Codekas, all rights reserved

“When you've seen beyond yourself, then you may find, peace of mind is waiting there.” –George Harrison

Where has everyone been these past few weeks? seems we are all flying around, moving, changing jobs, relationships, partners, cars, and houses. Some have even changed color schemes, religions, political affiliations and passions.

I think it is grand time to be alive. Things seem clearer, discernments sparkling with certitude, decisions less threatening, and people who I talk to tend to grope around more intense, meaningful conversations.

Time is not wasted. It is filled with new books, new art, strangers who are not so strange, and crisp colors through the red and gold flecked hills and mountains my body walks through. The Puget Sound looks greyer, bluer, deeper in hues I never swam through before. My eyesight jags on auras and eyes which now reveal their meanings and depths unlike anything ever experienced.

Veils are lifting for me and for you. Realities no longer hold the approbation or fear that my self-aggrandizing spirit once furled along the roads I tread. I would have to say their are no roads I follow now.

Instead, each step I take builds the road before me, one step at a time. Previous pathways disappear, old beliefs are gone and I am left in the most incredible, cosmic float imaginable.

I can only equate it to that first moment my baby eyes opened after hurtling down my mother’s birth canal and I splashed into the void of earth’s air and mineral environment. Don’t you feel something different in your life now, too?

IT is perceptible, yet, indefinable by your old explanations, understandings as if floating through space, aware of all that is around you, and divested of decades of old crap, old relationships, old beliefs.

I also find my reading choices, the past few weeks, are as unplanned, unknown and surprising as everything else that is shifting in my life. Assuming is a worthless exercise, in my current state of exhilaration, expectation and awareness.

I almost cannot explain it to you. It would be like trying to explain to you what something tastes like, if you and I do not have anything to compare together. Like trying to explain the transcendence of mediation, dance or making love.

What does it feel like? The unknown is becoming known. the tribes are gathering together and wherever you are now, your tribe is being defined or else disassembled. I read George Harrison, this week. For some reason, finding out that he was a madman about gardening tilted my world some. Olivia, his wife wrote it and you do need to check it out, no matter how you feel about the Beatles. They were spiritualizing the world in the search for their own peace and understanding of the cosmic questions. Check it out on Amazon.com http://amzn.to/uZ2oJa

George Harrison: Living in the Material World

 

“Without looking out of my window
I could know the ways of heaven”
― George Harrison

It’s All Changing

© Danise Codekas 2011

“The past went that-a-way. When faced with a totally new situation, we tend always to attach ourselves to the objects, to the flavor of the most recent past. We look at the present through a rear view mirror. We march backwards into the future.”-M.McLuhan

Walking to my car, today, a man parks, in front of me, gets out of his car and yells across the parking lot: “Fuc*in’ Dumbass!!!”.

He looked a little upset, and wasn’t directing it at me, so I asked him what was wrong. Sometimes, it helps diffuse angry, stressed humans. It’s how I communicate my concern about a cosmic tribesmen’s angst.

He calmed, smiled at me (I was looking good in jeans and sandals), and told me that a man was speeding down the one-way driveway, the wrong way. My parking buddy nearly lost his front end. 

You’ve encountered idiots like this, I am sure. You may be one of them.

We all screw up sometime, n’est pas?

I told him that I thought he might have encountered, a Washington State driver, that opted out of the Turn Signal Equipment Option Package, at the dealership.

He cracked up, when he figured it out what I meant. We both laughed and his anger abated, immediately.

FYI: If you ever drive in WA. State, be aware that there are a lot of drivers, who are stoned, drunk or brain dead, who DO NOT use turn signals, ever.

Vans that have the, BABY ON BOARD stickers are usually the main culprits, in my driving experience, here. I think a lot of people here just do not take any driver education classes.

Which reminds me about McLuhan’s statement that, anyone who tries to make a distinction between education and entertainment doesn't know the first thing about either.

If you want a good laugh on a freeway, come on up here, and let me take you for a drive some Saturday evening on I-5, between Olympia and Seattle.

Hence, please be prepared to laugh and shake your head when you see our driving screw ups. McLuhan’s brilliant sociological theories about communications and technology is what made me decide to switch degree programs from anthropology to mass communications.

When I read McLuhan’s comment that, art is anything you can get away with, a light was illuminated in my consciousness, and I had to decided to head to UC Berkeley, to study the sociology of communications, and, who better to study under but someone who used to be a leader in the SDS at San Francisco State?

Todd Gitlin, Chair of the PH.D Communications Program, Columbia U. and NY Times Author. Todd’s latest book is:  UNDYING

 http://www.toddgitlin.net/?page_id=10

He laughed, nodded his head, and then asked me how my day was going. I find my curiosity grows daily, as to why people are angry in the streets, since it appears more people are expressing their frustrations, openly.

Maybe there are more people, however, I think the internet has something to do with the diminishing embarrassment we all feel to express ourselves openly, whether it is a parking lot or on our blogs. We do express without fear in our Facebook or Twitter pages.

The ability to sound off across the globe has grown exponentially in the past 10 years, since the US attacks in September 2001. There was no Twitter, then. If there had been I am sure the servers would have crashed, a lot, all around the globe.

The “medium is the message” seems to be more true today, for me because of the spike in technological advancements, than when Marshall McLuhan's sociological analysis of mass communication ideas, hit the world, in the 60’s.

“The medium is the message. This is merely to say that the personal and social consequences of any medium / that is, of any extension of ourselves / result from the new scale that is introduced into our affairs by each extension of ourselves, or by any new technology.”-Marshal McLuhan

Marshal’s publisher’s failure to spell check McLuhan's original book title, The Medium is the Message, proved his theory perfectly, when the cover for the 1st printing fell off the press, as The Medium is the Massage.

[Wikipedia: The Medium is the Massage demonstrates how modern media are extensions of human senses; they ground us in physicality, but expand our ability to perceive our world to an extent that would be impossible without the media. These extensions of perception contribute to McLuhan’s theory of the Global Village, which would bring humanity full circle to an industrial analogue of tribal mentality.]

Once I understood what it was all about, thanks to Todd Gitlin, who was my advisor, and the head of the mass comm dept. at Berkeley, McLuhan’s idea, that we become what we behold and we shape our tools and then our tools shape us, complemented with my studies of Tibetan Buddhist and Hindu Vedic texts, Cosmology, and indigenous tribal spirituality. 

Quantum physics theories provide scientific proof of ancient Vedic texts,  that  explain, in explicit details,  that the observer affects the observed reality, and both change during the experience, at subtle energy levels. Anything that happens in the universe affects everything in the universe at a subtle energy level.

Well, I have no idea where this blog came from today. It may have something to do with some hesitation about starting a new book, this week. Yes, I am working on a new book, or, rather working up to begin a new manuscript which I created an outline for about 7 or 8 years ago.

What is it about? God only knows. I know it has to do with cosmology, technology and relationships. So, the hardest part could be figuring out a title.

You know we are all trying to create a new way in our lives. We are trying to change, let go, clear out, start again, and do things we love doing which enable us to live a fulfilling life.

If there is anything in your life which is not going the way you want it to go, or you are consistently unhappy because you cannot find, cannot be, or cannot see, then know you are banging your head on the past, or a future based on a reality which is an illusion. The heart, the dream, the desire is where you need to find your breath and your direction.

If you are feeling guilty because you have ended bits and parts of your life that did not serve your soul, and are thinking about going back there, walking back in that door because it is the only door you can find safety behind, after being out in the cold, for so long, you may want to re-think your return.

Stop. Do not go back to the old, the familiar, the thing that makes you feel safe, the person that you think is the only one who understand you now.

You will know you made a mistake when you walk through that door and you worry it will be the same, you feel guilty that you walked away, you are made to feel ashamed for your leaving.

Those feelings should not be present when you walk in the door that is full of possibility, generosity, grace, and you are in a new paradigm, which people from the past cannot destroy, crush, or make you question.

There should be no question in your mind or heart about the next step, the next relationship, the next mission. You just know. Fear dissolves, your life’s mission draws your tribe to you, empowers your creativity.Spiritual quests become the norm, rather than a life’s, last moment regret.Relationships arise before you, that are unlike anything from the past: unimaginable, peaceful, unquestioned, inspiring.

“As the unity of the modern world becomes increasingly a technological rather than a social affair, the techniques of the arts provide the most valuable means of insight into the real direction of our own collective purposes.”-Marshall McLuhan

 

Birthday Ruminations

© 2011 Danise Codekas

“God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.” ~Author Unknown

The gathering of the tribes is taking place as I type this evening. It is peaceful here at my favorite cafe, FORZA, in DuPont, WA. Love the music they play and at 6pm there is no one here except me, looking out over a park, and a new building project which will block the view of the forest that winds down to the Puget Sound.

Time to change locations, mayhap. One thing I have noticed over the birthday weekend, and sitting under this September full moon, many of us are un-plugging from old ways, old friends, and people we no longer vibrate to emotionally, psychically or spiritually. We are nomads, many of us, unplugging from the old tribe, and wandering the earth, city, or mountaintops and oceans, connecting with the new tribe that sustains our personal mission, beliefs and ideals.

People we no longer have to explain where our hearts or heads are at, let alone, hide our true selves from any longer. False images of ourselves no longer need to be used since the people we used them on, in order to maintain a semblance of communication, are being left behind, blessed and spinning off to their tribes, who they are most comfortable with, also.

The final goodbye’s we speak, silently, are not forever, since we could end up in a next life, or meeting up with them at a dinner party, or an awards event. However, we have un-plugged from them emotionally, and in doing so, our hearts are  lighter, lesson learned, and blessing placed on wherever their hearts lead them.

The realization, for me, this birthday weekend, happened unexpectedly, however recognizing what was happening with the people I interacted with, was swift, gratefully acknowledged, and, best of all, their was no sadness. Just a realization that the relationships had run their course, and we all had accomplished as much as we could together, this lifetime.

I was complete and whole. They, also, complete and whole. Realizing our energies and paths were headed in new directions, based on free will, and what it was our souls needed now, brought joy and gratefulness, once the realization that our paths had diverged, clarified before me.

The universe sent me a great birthday present, as these 6 people, from different places, and walks of life passed time with me, and we said goodbye, in our heart, after recognizing our differences. For the short time, we spent interacting with one another, over the years, the experiences we shared, it is time for me to move on.

“There is a certain relief in change, even though it be from bad to worse!  As I have often found in travelling in a stagecoach, that it is often a comfort to shift one's position, and be bruised in a new place.”  ~Washington Irving

The agreements we made to spend time together, to learn from one another, to see myself through their eyes, are unbound, and I walked away from all these people with reverence in my heart, gratefulness, and knowledge that the time of our journey together had come to an end.

The structure of our relationships had changed, and perhaps, they had noted it earlier, than I. However, I understood what was happening and reacted with calmness, peace and turned to face the new friends I would meet, the next adventure which would arise before me.

I go on, knowing that I am not the woman I was, when we met across the years. Nor are they.  The veils have lifted for me. seeing people and situations clearly, knowing that only the ones that call to my heart, touch my heart will be the ones I am led to, play with, heed, and build the new paradigm of my life.

The new beginning and it is also all starting up for me in my first house, in the sign of Virgo. 9/9 was an amazing birthday and the old energy which no longer serves is slowly returning to sea, as the new energy wave comes crashing into my life. I am so grateful.

Saturday, 17th, my yearly reading, with astrologer, Steve Nelson, in North Carolina, will take place. Steve seems to think this is going to be one incredible, knockout of a year for me. He has never been wrong in all these years.

The foolish acts, which lead me to dig a little deeper into the why’s and wherefores, hopefully, will be understood, in this paradigm I am creating with every breath, and this full moon above me, here in DuPont, and above you on another continent, brings wisdom, awareness and change. Another day past, and, hopefully, another to come. Enjoy your time on earth. Fill it with those who understand you, and what it is you came to share with us, this lifetime. Do not spend it with those whose teachings and actions no longer inspire, fulfill you, or inspire you. Do not be fooled by false promises of love or gold. When you find it, see it, know it, grab it, follow it, tell it you are with it for a while. Fly with it.

“All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another. “ ~Anatole France

Do Not Hide

The strange things in the universe seem to be popping up a lot lately. Anything unusual and anachronistic pop up in your life, recently? Anachronistic defines as the representation of someone as existing, or something as happening, in other than chronological, proper, or historical order In other words, did your plans change without consulting you? 

Did someone try to take control of your mind, life or travel plans who was not expected or, for that matter, known to you? Are you running away from someone or something, not realizing you are actually heading to someone or something new that your mind and soul are screaming for instead. 

Feel like we are all traveling now to things unknown, places which will help divest of the burdens, fears, and embarrassments we created around ourselves in the past 2 years or so. 

Ready to drop our pain, sorrow and the sadness, so that the people we know and love us are no longer confused about seeing us in present time. So many of the people in my life remember my past, rather see me in the present, because I stopped hiding.

Last night, when I was thinking important, philosophical thoughts, around midnight, the universe did a shout out at me. One of those moments when I put my feet on the floor, grab a pad and pen and write down what I heard in the silence of the Northwest night. "Do Not Hide!".

The universe and higher consciousness always give succinct and simple instructions to me. Probably to you also. We expect long diatribes, multi-sentenced advice dialogue, and fail to see the simple symbols at our feet, or in the license plate in front of our car before us.

That instruction, last night, was the most unexpected, accurate advice I could have received, on the first day of my birthday month. Something has been broiling inside me for the past few months. 

Old traditions, beliefs and ways were shaken up and I knew that everything was about to change about how I felt, thought and acted and change was unblocking those things that no longer are needed by me. 

Those old beliefs, places, people, habits you are trying to break free from today, are the same ones I was dealing with over the past few months, since May-June. The directive to me -Do Not Hide-means that it is time to show the world who I am, without any fear. 

No embarrassment to say and do those things which are not shrouded by what someone will think of me. A new way of being was enabled and my truth was discharged into the universe, because, like you, I have a mission to complete before checking off this planet.

The world and those who understand we are all engaged in a mass upliftment of consciousness, with major alignments to planetary and energetic systems which support our transformation from the age of domination and war and earth's destruction, to the age of cosmic communication and enlightenment. We no longer need more lessons to remind us we are the ones who are the creators and instigators of change. 

We are doing it. We are on the mission today as we head into tomorrow, more inspired, dedicated and creative. En masse, we inspire, support, and push the wave of change to the limits of the cosmic center, of the universe, Hunab Ku (if you know Mayan glyphs). 

You can substitute whatever, for you, is the power which keeps all that is, expanding and creating. God, Buddha, The Oracle, The Wisdom-Keepers, Allah, Yahweh, Kwan Yin, Zeus, Odin, Mother Earth, or the gods from Sirius B, which is where the Mali believe they were sent from to earth. 

Unless you realize the power you have inside, to bring change to the earth, and all of us who know you are the only one, on the planet with a special, unique gift which we need to evolve, together, into higher enlightenment, we will all have to wait until you can speak your truth which will enlighten us and change all our understanding so we may live in harmony and fulfillment. 

You are the only one who can teach what you know. I do not have your gift. You do not have mine. We are co-dependent on one another to change the world, bring enlightenment to all beings, and stop the destruction of everything and everyone on this planet, including the destruction of mama Earth.

Stop hiding your gifts. Please speak your truth. Write your blogs, books, words across the walls and newspapers of the world. You and I cannot hide any longer. We have to reveal ourselves to one another. How else will our hearts bond and bodies heal if we do not come out of the caves of our minds, which we have been hiding in, healing, gathering energies to us so we can share them with one another and the world?

The tenor and cadence and power in the words the universe spoke to me last night, I shall never forget. My thought was that it was a call from all sentient beings on the planet, last night, to me. My writing schedule has changed in one day, and the intensity I feel deep inside me, now, to get you to join me in revealing your gifts, your ideas, your solutions for this mass transformation of consciousness, we are all co-creating in this time period, is excruciatingly passionate. 

Please do not hide anymore. We need to be honest about who we are, what we think, who we choose to love and live with, and we need to know that none of us know what the results will be, but they will be more amazing than any of us, collectively, can imagine. Yes, there will be pain, sorrow and trajedies. Men and women who seek control and power will seek to silence and destroy. 

They have been on the earth for a long time. However, it is time to stop hiding who we are and pick up our hands, hold one another in light, send blessings to all, and do your work which we came here to do, now. 

If you are still lying to yourself about what is important to you, you are now being challenged by economic, political, and earth changes, which will grow in magnitude and severity. Nothing will be the same as it is now, in a few years. Even mother earth is no longer holding back her displeasure at the atrocities committed against her nature for millennium. All cells are responding and demanding holistic treatment and respect. 

"Do Not Hide!" --cry to me from the universe, 12:01 a.m., 2 September, 2011.

 

To Hide, def. :

1. To put or keep out of sight; secrete.

2. To prevent the disclosure or recognition of; conceal: tried to hide the facts.

3. To cut off from sight; cover up: Clouds hid the stars.

4. To avert (one's gaze), especially in shame or grief.

v.intr.

1. To keep oneself out of sight.

2. To seek refuge.

 

We have been doing all the above, in our lives. Hiding from things we have done, feeling guilty, accepting blame for decisions, made, after listening to our hearts and souls. You are en enlightened, super-conscious, electro-magnetic being who has all the answers for your questions inside your DNA, now.  

 

We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them. -Albert Einstein